One issue that emerged in a number of interviews as a source of tension between couples was the issue of the relative value attributed to women's work. When both parents were working, fathers were more likely to say that they shared responsibilities equally than that either parent had most of the responsibility. The parents sure came to your events. Dad, yes, I think especially now. I mean, balance to me sort of means, is everyone happy. The consequences of the same action might be quite different for each child. You can’t tell them to mind their business because, well, they’re family. Well I think often when I've been put to the test by the kids' bad behaviours…I just fly off the handle. In terms of working hours, Galinsky reported that about two thirds of children indicated that they thought their parents work about the right amount. These grades were then analysed with reference to the following variables: Children in grades 7 to 12 were asked some questions with slightly different wording, and were asked some additional questions, including questions which asked about specific aspects of work-family spillover and what the best and worst thing about a parent's working was. I suppose no, looking back, at my age, it wasn't Mum's childhood dream I don't think to work in a Milk Bar, but it was to make ends meet and she did all she could at that time to keep us afloat and I appreciate now more than what I did before, but it never really entered my mind because Mum always worked full-time and it was just what she did and it didn't have an impact on me. Parent's Employment – current paid work undertaken; reasons for working; hours worked; preferred hours to work; enjoyment of work; work as job or career; how decisions were made by the individual and/or within a couple about who would work, and how work would be managed; whether the way the respondent thinks about work changed after having children. Again, listening to children may reveal to parents that the ideal of family and parenting that they carry is no longer relevant. Lines are drawn and sides are chosen. [Do you like to hear about their work and their jobs?] Nearly all the children referred to being able to spend enough time with their children. [girl, 12], Mum yes, because it was something to do. What do you do if you think your parents have had a bad day? One parent talking about working at home within core work hours, as opposed to unpaid overtime, in order to meet the perceived needs of children who do not want to attend after-school care five days a week. (Although, interestingly, paternal under-employment was associated with lower ratings on several parenting skills.) However, given the potentially severe consequences and the broad impact of work-family conflict, it represents a social issue best tackled with collaboration from employers, employees, and governments. Most of the parents interviewed were aware of whether they talked about their work with their children, and gave cogent reasons for their actions. Both demand constructs partially mediate the effects of three categories of domain variables on the two forms of conflict. Once parents have made a decision to work, they then face the issue of how their experience of work impacts on their parenting role, and how this experience in turn affects other decisions about working. Ellen Galinsky was the keynote speaker at this conference, and a paper based on this project, entitled "Family and Work: the Family's Perspective", was also presented as a keynote speech. They invest their time and money in activities that affect their offspring's well-being. [Do you think they like working?] I think I am fairly realistic that there are times when we're going to be angry with each other. How easy or difficult do you find it to focus on your children when you are together? ", so I don't get do that anywhere near as much as I would like to. Does it have a positive impact, a negative impact or both? Parents (particularly fathers) who placed a high priority on family, received support for their parenting role from family and the workplace, and had jobs that were both more demanding and more meaningful were more likely to report that their experiences of parenting had a positive effect on their work. (mother, works full-time). Yes, I like asking just to find out. [boy, 14], [Mum] Yes. These children all seem to be indicating that they would like their parents to have "better" jobs – better paid and less stressful. It is important to note that the two questions were not asked sequentially, or even within the same section of the interview schedule. If I had a choice (to) go home or go to after care, I'd choose to go home. This is a similar proportion to that reported by Galinsky in her quantitative study. In much of the general discourse exploring who is most conflicted when it comes to juggling employment and family demands, and what the implications are, it is implicit that work–family conflict is more pertinent for mothers than it is for fathers (Shockley, Shen, DeNunzio, Arvan, & Knudsen, 2017). It’s not uncommon for families to view agreements, commitments, and deadlines as suggestions. What do you think your kids would say if asked this question? Not much, but I mean not so early at 3 o'clock in the morning. The observation that employment status does not affect children's ratings of parenting skills, but that the amount of time and the frequency of engaging in regular activities does, presents a challenge to assumptions that often underlie the debate about the impact of parental employment on children. Most of the children who had experience of some non-parental care during primary school years went to after school care. "Yes, but what do you do?" Actually I don't think they would because they'd just be incredibly bored, they'd probably work less, I think, that's what they'd do. Is there any difference in how much you or your children enjoy time that is arranged compared with time spent just "hanging around" together? It was noticeable that it was primarily mothers who were utilizing these 'scaling back' strategies, although several fathers expressed a desire to take turns with their partners. That’s not always a problem, but if they rub someone the wrong way, then it's guilt-by-association. Also that the activities that are there don't particularly interest him, and I think really his preference would be that he would rather be at home doing his own thing. Because I don't think you can expect kids to come home into a house by themselves and go and do their homework. A variety of experiences seemed to be considered the best arrangement, with neither too much supervised care nor too much time on their own. Do you parents come to special events like sports days, parent-teacher interviews, school concerts, etc? The results of the study will be reported in a book, published by Cambridge Press, called Mothers at Work: Effects on Children's Well-being by Lois Hoffman and Lise Youngblade, with Rebekah Coley, Allison Fuligni, and Donna Kovacs. It's about constantly striving for that balance and it is a tension between one and other things. For every dollar I earn they take 2 or 3 more off me. When asked about what they might do with the parent in the extra time they would have together, most of the children talked about activities such as going shopping, going out for lunch, playing ping-pong and chess, swimming, going to the park, and talking. In general the children talked about these everyday activities – not extravagant holidays or special outings. Similarly very few parents reported that work interfered with their capacity to pay attention to children, nor did many parents report work as interfering in the home – at least as far as the children were concerned. [father, works full-time]. Do you think that their work ever stops them from coming to these kinds of events? But, when dealing with family, how can you fire your cousin when you know the entire family is going to hear about it? One child had quite an elaborate notion of what the perfect after-school arrangement might be, and serves as a clear reminder as to why parents would not abdicate all responsibility for decision making to children (although his plan for his mother is very thoughtful too). "Because" I said "if you don't, you're going to drive me insane". So now we're able to talk. Now I want to talk about where your children are while you are doing paid work. It changes with age. For some this had impacted on their enjoyment of working. Pages: 1-19. Not being with (my son) for the whole time that I could be. Rather, many of the children appeared to be satisfied or even proud of their contribution to family life. [mother, works 20 hours]. In recording several anecdotes of adults looking back on their own parents' work choices, Galinsky (1999) noted that a re-evaluation of childhood experiences could occur. [mother works 15 hours; father full-time] I would probably try and work weekdays, like Monday to Thursday, so on Fridays I could pick them up from school, and I would have the weekend free. Something more advanced than her other job. A study of three small companies in New Jersey and New York, in which employees and their husbands/wives or partners and children were interviewed, highlighted the issue of listening to children for Galinsky. For example, some parents talked about needing greater flexibility at work in order to exert more control over the impact that work may have on their capacity to be available to their children. It works fairly well…You might have a jigsaw where you've got 20 pieces, but either of those pieces could go in different spots. Such a simple statement that is, as the cliché goes, easier said than done. Others felt it was just part of the natural exchange that should occur in a family. This gradually evolved into regular part-time work. (What happens then?) I actually think that I probably – okay, won't make the same mistakes as my parents, but will make my own little set of mistakes, and my children will say to me – "Mum you should have stood on your head" and "we could have done it this way". Baydar, Greek and Gritz (1999) used data from the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth (NLSY) in the United States to show that there were small negative correlations between hours spend working and hours spent in child care activities. I'm not convinced it's a positive impact. Occasionally, the balance can be thrown off by the spouses of those family or friends working together. It is clear that all the children, both boys and girls, expected to have substantial involvement in their own children's lives, but that they did not necessarily expect to have to choose between work and parenting. Children appear to be reflecting on their relationships with their parents. Some researchers have suggested that the use of technology such as the mobile phone can be problematic, with concern about their children's safety leading parents to excessively monitor "children's time use instead of interacting with them more meaningful ways" (Schneider, Waite and Dempsey, 2000; p 11). Bianchi, 2000; Baydar, Greek and Gritz, 1999). [boy, 17]. Any other employee would just say, "okay." It’s a fact that you need to accept and learn from. Do you think you will work when you have children? By doing this it should be possible to enrich debate, and make it easier for families to find solutions to their particular challenges. They have learned to completely shut off work once they leave the workplace, but they’re few and far between. I just have a sense that if work is the very dominant feature in the living arrangement and how you live on a day-to-day basis, then you don't really have the time to put into a relationship. Try not to make it too serious – so I guess that's why I call it juggling, because I just don't want to get too heavy about it. There were a number of parents in the sample who were increasing their hours of work as their children were getting older. Some of the things we are talking about might be things you've never thought about. And our friends – like my friends, they would walk home and whatever, and because we lived a bit further away, we couldn't really do that. (father, works two jobs, part-time). Are they happy? It's not like good. largest impact on families associated with wives enter-ing the labor force. Like there is no specific point when I thought "hang on, why doesn't she work and why do they work?" [boy, 15]. So we don't talk 'til the weekends really, as a family. This concern was a factor in these parents' employment decisions. For work-family researchers, ‘spillover’ encompasses not only the effects of stress on the family, but also the consequences of positive occupa-tional experiences, such as a supervisor’s recognition for good work predicting warmer mother–child interactions that day [6 ]. One partner will be the primary breadwinner, pursing a career, while the second will have a job that is not seen as such a commitment either physically or emotionally. The variety in the patterns of the children's responses to the questions about how much parents work and how much time they spend with children reveals that it is inappropriate and potentially misleading to reduce analysis of the work-family relationship to purely the number of hours worked by parents. Sometimes, sometimes she doesn't. As a complement to the survey of parents, 1,023 children in third to twelfth grades completed a self-administered questionnaire in school time. Time is a strong theme again, with nearly all the children referring to the impact of work on time spent with children. Even where there was apparent clarity of their decision making, some parents (mothers in particular) talked about the guilt that they felt, or the sense of conflict that endured. They have no choice. I'm working with human beings and it's a lot bloody harder, you know. Plus, enjoy a FREE 1-year. I think the common perception that work has to be paid where you go and do an activity in an office is so removed from family life. She leaves before I get up. In general concordance with Galinsky's findings, the responses were divided roughly evenly between those saying that they wished their parents spent more time with them and those who said their parents currently spent enough time with them. Everything is weighed by the fact that you could cause problems in the relationship or family. Two things – one, the kids have said it, and I guess the older I've got and the older they've got, I've thought, I just wanted to spend a bit more time with them. (good and bad) In the current research, children were asked how they felt about their parents' working hours and whether their parents spent enough time with them. Or maybe 8 and a half or 9, no, not 9, I don't think I could work that much. And I hated it. So I think that ideally the family should be together for the main meals of the day, and the family should be together for bedtime, and the family should be together for getting up time. The way that parents and children talked about work and family in this research is consistent both with models of work and family interaction, and models of parent-child interactions. And most of the time it sort of rolls along reasonably comfortably, but when anything exceptional , such as work becomes very busy or there's sickness or there's school holidays or when the dog gets sick, that's when it gets hard. The Journal of Positive Psychology: Vol. Younger children in particular may not realise that their parents, as the power brokers in the home, do not have that degree of power in their role as worker. Could you list the children living in this household with you. Some parenting roles require continuous quantities of time, and some parenting roles require regular commitments of time. For these parents and children, strategies involving family friendly workplace initiatives would have particular importance. [boy, 20], She feels that she sometimes has to work a bit late, but I think she likes working there. It’s very unlikely that any of your colleagues are going to speak freely about your relative. Some children were quite explicit about planning the way they would work when they had a family by considering what they liked or disliked about their own experiences. Most talked about working after the children were asleep so that they did not let work interfere with family life, however this was acknowledged to be difficult, as the parent would be tired and may not work very effectively. [girl, 12], For them not to work and we'd get money anyway. Now works] I can see (my little sister), she loved it when mum came home, but recently because she is doing a course and everything, she's had to miss a few things. That is, some of the parents working part-time agreed with their children that it would be desirable if they stopped working or worked at a different job, just as some of the parents working full-time agreed with their children that they would probably not change much at all if they had a free choice. Child's Future plans – future career; family plans; work and family plan. Whether they have consciously planned it or not, these families have developed strategies to deal with the restriction they experience from working, and the children seem to appreciate it. But I just reckon mum will be, like she is the sort of person that wouldn't really alter that much. Do you feel that you are bringing up your children in the way that you would like to, or are there circumstances that restrict you? Even though you’re little brother tells you he’s successful, can you be certain of that? Some of the literature hypothesizes that family life impacts negatively on people's capacity to work. It doesn't mean that Mum's working or Dad's working, it basically means, is the house working, at the house level? How you actually calculate that sum, the value of the children versus the value of the foregone career, I don't know. In the income categories over $26,000, the most common response was 'doing alright', except for the over $78,000 category where the same number said they were living comfortably. It was just a role that I had taken upon myself and enjoyed that role. He needs to do physical exercise and it gets rid of his stress he says. For the most part would you say you enjoy working? You've got to see that in part as a reflection on yourself. (mother works full-time). The incredibly dynamic nature of the employment patterns of parents is revealed in this family. You’re going to fail. I don't know. [mother works part-time]. And feeling jealous of other women who seemed perfectly happy in that mode. [single mother]. How well do they work? The boys are very good at that. [What makes you think that she doesn't really like her job much?] Family members who work together can help balance each others' strengths and weaknesses and bring everyone closer together, reports the University of Illinois Extension. [Dad works] the right amount. [girl, 12], They do sometimes, but more they ask us how our school was more than talk about themselves. Those who did not still tended to endorse it as the best option. How can you tell? And doing so feels almost akin to problem-solving—in the moment, at least,” writes Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. “Venting your frustrations alleviates tension and stress. Work-to-family enrichment will be positively related to life satisfaction and negatively related to depression. He thinks they are too strict. Most parents seemed to find affirmation of the way they were parenting by reference to the way their children behaved when they were with other people or in public. When the details of their wishes were considered, the responses of parents and children from the same family were seen to be very similar. studies on work-family balance. In particular this report examines how parents and children perceive the impact of work on parent-child relationships - both in general and in their own families - and the ways in which parents and children consider that positive relationships can be maintained when parents are engaged in the labour force. And I'll say "because you're working with bricks and mortar. Many parents had developed strategies to improve the quality of family functioning. Journal of Marriage and the Family, v 61 n 3, 1999, 725-738. As you get older, they are more self-sufficient, it changes totally. So, all those things contributed to my divorce, and so now, what I am saying, is I just want to do 8 hours and get of out there. [boy, 15]. Even worse? I don't think that Mum's working gave me responsibility. The impact of work-family policies on women's employment: a review of research from OECD countries @article{Hegewisch2011TheIO, title={The impact of work-family policies on women's employment: a review of research from OECD countries}, author={A. Hegewisch and Janet C. Gornick}, journal={Community, Work & Family}, … Often he'll do stuff that will annoy me, or he'll do stuff that he knows he's not supposed to do, so that escalates the situation and we end up having a row. This is an important issue to touch on, as it relates to the fact that this study is not about outcomes, but rather is about the impressions and perceptions of the current circumstances in which families find themselves. As a result, you pass their responsibilities to other co-workers. Experiences of Using Non-parental Care – current; prior to school entry; when children are sick; during school holidays; the respondent's sense of children's views about such care. Have you learned or gained anything from having parents who work? Neither children's nor parents' reports of parents' working hours were associated with the self-reported amount of time spent with children. One parent who talked about giving her child her last $2 to buy a flying toy being sold for fundraising at school, talked about going to pick him up and finding that he had lost it on the roof. For single parents, their time with their children had the additional external constraint that issues of shared parenting bring. How do you feel when this happens? How can you tell? ], Some people talk about "balancing" their work and family lives. Despite this, for most who had made changes, the feedback was often obvious and immediate. If I can't, I will say 'it's not a good time" and can you accept that?" 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