The noted penny-pinching guru dubbed Mr. Money Mustache announced on New Year’s Eve that he and his wife have divorced, writing in a blog … For example, I told an independent advisor that every divorced person I knew (in personal life at that time) is a total loser. The good news is that we have had about the most amicable separation that one could hope for, we all still spend plenty of time together and our son is still in the same loving environment he has always had. It is truly one of the worst things that can happen, most people don’t understand unless they’ve been through it, which can be very isolating. She wanted to spare us until she had everything in place. Is it a panacea? This can drastically increase your hourly earnings. In some ways, it’s the opposite of passive income since you have to keep at it. When I heard the news, I thought to myself, “how could this happen?” Thank you. Our financial planner had me working until age 68 (2022) I ran the numbers again with the tools and common sense you provided. Mr. Money Mustache, pretty sure the point of your lifestyle is not to waste money on stupid inefficient crap. He has taught that his mindset, frugality, etc can provide a happy life and happy relationships with those around you. Much like all things in life, there’s an ebb and a flow to post-divorce life. The gossip has to hurt and the internet can be ruthless, likely filled with people who are experiencing their own levels of hurt. Ignore them if you can or shut them down. The few comments I had read, the baseless speculation and entitlement were disgusting. So that’s the bad news. Anonymous It’s KBB is about $3500. Don't ruin the planet. December 31, 2018, 6:33 pm. LAEP-high school FAFSA help, mock interviews, career day speaking engagement, etc. NFTE-national entrepreneurship organization Planning to visit Longmont someday and get to say thank you in person. In my experience, of folks in my extended family, the hurt and anger turns the kid into a pawn to hurt the other parent. Life is full of hardships. Hi! Thank you for posting about this, there were a number of divorces for my mom and dad growing up. Any further commenters need to remember that we are not entitled to information about you, or your family, or anyone else… ever. Everyone looks at the divorce rate, but nobody looks at the “happily married” rate when talking about marriages. So you have to treat your business partner accordingly.”. Don't ruin the planet. I commend you on the cooperative divorce. The most useful comments are those written with the goal of learning from or helping out other readers – after reading the whole article and all the earlier comments. Here at Mr. Money Mustache, we talk about all sorts of fancy stuff like investment fundamentals, lifestyle changes that save money, entrepreneurial ideas that help you make money, and philosophy that allows you to make these changes a positive thing instead of a sacrifice. And easier. Is it good for my finances? As an adult who has moved a lot while single, introverted and secular, this is a big hurdle. Still is. Life throws some curveballs alright and although I’ve been fortunate in the marriage space, being married for 29 years, I’ve definitely had a few beanballs thrown my way in other areas. Although I chose to buy a house, nobody had to compromise on quality of life or sell the expensive family house. mchrist152 So anyway, what I wanted to say is that I came across your funny and enlightening Blog and I could see a way out my mess, I’m older but I can still apply the FIRE plan and retire – well at normal retirement age but I can try and make it happen in 5-10 years, thats what really has me super focused now. While the first year was very difficult, as you mention. © Mr. Money Mustache. Sorry to hear! Seek professional counseling when necessary, find support in your family and friends, and have faith that the pain is only temporary and you will find wholeness again. Thank you! I call my ex-spouse the Best ExHusband Ever and we are good friends, still have fun together, sharing holidays and family events, and take great care of our son. In the end I’ve come to appreciate how you’ve handled being a father, husband and now partner in raising your son. From the outside, it looked like a well-working marriage. Life continues to get better as time passes. Your formula seems a little simplistic. I’m sure the initial feelings were not publishable. It’s definitely hard sometimes, but nurturing a relationship is important. I bought the lowest-cost house in the neighborhood, just a 2.5 minute bike ride down the hill from the family house, and I’ve already fixed it up and started hosting Airbnb rentals to help make it carry its own weight. It is truly a life changing website and I cannot thank MMM enough! Very impressed by your broad viewpoints and wisdom even through tough times like these. Because sometimes life just serves up a shit salad and we don’t have a choice in the matter, but we always have a choice of how to respond to it. There are so many things, like being on each other’s team in times of hardship, and being genuinely excited and greeting your partner warmly at the door if they’ve been away, that fall to the side in marriages as they get stale. Yes! And I’d rather call it a good game a little early, rather than being a burden on someone else to take care of me. I hope your divorce is a step towards that, but I would wait to date again if I were you. It is legendary for destroying lives and fortunes, and indeed this is sometimes accurate. Also you need to learn hypermiling techniques (google it) to save as much gas (or energy if it is electric) as possible to earn more money from each trip. December 31, 2018, 8:05 pm. Thank you. My state has that program, and I’ve met and formed friendships with the nicest men and women of all ages by participating in the classes and volunteering. Here at Mr. Money Mustache, we talk about all sorts of fancy stuff like investment fundamentals, lifestyle changes that save money, entrepreneurial ideas that help you make money, and philosophy that allows you to make these changes a positive thing instead of a sacrifice. With the rule of 55 with regard to my most recent 401K, I can technically retire. I’m grateful to you for helping me get time off for good behavior. They are who they are and while you can’t change them, you can’t make the world any better by spitting venom back at them.”, This quote really articulated how I have been feeling of late and obviously applies to humanity as a whole. As parents of a 6, 4, and 2 year old sometimes life is incredibly hard where all we’re doing is surviving- but in the (many) moments of fun and smiles, it’s good to go a little deeper than just enjoying what’s on the surface and realize the deep joy and bliss. Although we had been drifting this way for a while, the formal change of our status is still less than a year old, so it’s still a topic that deserves some quiet respect*. 18 Replies 16,305 Views August 09, 2020, 07:21:51 PM by Sport of Money: Asset Allocation and Diversification. Christine T My sister’s husband cheated on her with her neighbor and friend. Seriously. Twopupsonacouch I wish my parents had divorced 15 yrs before they actually did – everyone, especially them, would have been much happier. He is, by his own reckoning, a wealthy man, without want, but he and his wife Simi, who have one child, spend an average of … Thank you. -Being a landlord is OK, but it is nowhere near as simple or handsfree as people make it out to be. But the more conflict you have with that ex, the harder it is to cooperate, which leads to a worse experience for everyone – especially your children. So if you haven’t already heard through the rumor mill, the former Mrs. Money Mustache and I are no longer married. Mr. Money Mustache is the alias of a forty-one-year-old Canadian expatriate named Peter Adeney, who made or, more to the point, saved enough money in his twenties, working as a … I am also going through a divorce after separating from my husband last February. Time to extend that badassity to my marriage! The decision was easy, but the process and action was insanely difficult. Hang in there and thanks for sharing this. It sounds as though you’re both stellar role models. I’ve always thought marriage was a risky endeavor and to be taken with extreme patience. December 31, 2018, 6:36 pm. Looking forward to see you leading by example that divorce doesn’t mean financial ruin and damaged relationships. BTW I want to add that tomorrow January 1 is the first day of the year I turn 55. The good thing for introverts, we need something to do while communicating with others. Wow, when I read the headline I was really hoping that the topic of divorce wasn’t personal for you. (hug). This is however, a very valuable blog post for many. Both were and are heart-wrenching, but the ‘golden key’ has been the awareness of how precious our time together is, and a renewed commitment to cherishing each other. We spent whatever we wanted, we just happened to have finite desires. I think you have the exact right approach and for right reasons. And if you hire lawyers and other specialists to fight on your behalf, you just multiply the damage and the cost and stretch out the timeline. Wishing you and your family a fresh start in 2019. Loving the new YouTube channel, I’ve missed the MMM one liners like “We call this the oil well pants”. We can get right back to work on positive things to rebuild our lives. My comment form allows you to use a pseudonym so you can be anonymous while you let out the truth. I know this is unlikely but I’m fine with never read that blog again. Definitely one of the classics. As all my previous relationships lasted no more than 2 years. This was so sad to read, but thanks for your honesty and openness MMM. Started by … Reach out to this community online. Pete Adeney, aka Mr. Money Mustache, is famous for retiring at the age of 30 and blogging about it.. When you do not define yourself by your relationships with others it makes divorce, splitting up, etc, much easier because you can keep it in perspective. I’m 100% certain that I would not be a Mustachian or on the path to FI if I hadn’t taken the actions I did when I did. I wish for the two of you, peace, in 2019. Emotions get heavy in these situations. Pete Adeney, the … There are better ways, which I need to work on…. Anonymous November 12, 2019, 9:09 am. He spends more money each year than he tells his readers, but in order to keep up with his image and cult of followers, he continues to say they live on little. Thanks for sharing. anonymous December 31, 2018, 6:03 pm. Mrs. MM has always been an independent-minded person who is good with money and decides on her own spending. Building everyone up and never, ever tearing anyone down. Some of these (below) are nation-wide and some in Los Angeles County area only. Or sustainable living community. And when this happens, not even the greatest advantages of a lifetime money surplus or a supportive network of great friends and family or living in a beautiful place can save you. “…because I already have bikes” Love it. I’ll leave you with one of my favorite jokes: Please do take the best possible care of yourself. I took the love languages quiz some time backs and really think each needs to be aware of each other’s language. Started by freeforex20. Being married to the wrong person is such an emotional and psychological drag. And the fact that you can live so close and still have a great relationship is a sliver lining. For example, if you survived the financial crisis, you could have bought S&P 500 at 666. Your story made me think about my situation and motivated me to let my spouse how much I appreciate what she does every day. Glad you found it! Remember reading that some Buddhist believe that suffering is a path to Nirvana. Since I have no SS, pension or retirement I basically decided to myself that my retirement plan would be a self induced deadly “accident”. Having never been married, it’s hard for me to imagine all your family has suffered, but I know it was extraordinarily painful. And burn years on reliving the past, with a mixture of regret and vengeful self-righteousness and self-pity. Personally, I have found over 18 financial literacy organizations that every-day-people can volunteer for. 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